5 Financial Mistakes Women Make When Guilt Leads theDivorce
By Donna Cates, CRPC, CDFA
Divorce is emotional, but when guilt drives the decision-making, the financial fallout can last for years. Here are the most common mistakes I see women make and how to avoid them:
1. Giving Away Assets to “Make It Fair”
Out of guilt, some women hand over retirement accounts, savings, or other assets just to ease the emotional tension. The problem? Those assets are your future income stream. Don’t trade away your security for temporary relief.
2. Letting Him Keep the House Without Running the Numbers
Guilt often leads to the “he can have it” mentality. But the home is usually the largest marital asset. Giving it up without understanding the equity, tax impact, or buyout options can leave you starting over with far less than you deserve.
3. Accepting Less Child Support or Spousal Support
Many women feel guilty asking for support, as if it’s a burden rather than a legal right. But this money isn’t “for you”, it’s to support your children and help stabilize your transition. Don’t short-change your family’s well-being.
4. Rushing the Settlement Just to End the Pain
Divorce is exhausting, and guilt makes you want to “just get it over with.” But rushing the process often means missing details, overlooking assets, or agreeing to terms that don’t serve you long-term. Slow down. Clarity beats speed.
5. Failing to Plan for Life After Divorce
When guilt clouds your judgment, it’s easy to focus only on the present. But failing to project your post-divorce budget, retirement outlook, and cash flow means you could agree to terms that don’t sustain you for the years ahead.
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